Thursday, December 15, 2005

Thoughts on Marriage




It's funny my friend Mia was saying something about us having the best and being the queens that we are - and its true and in order for us to have our freaking castle, legion of men, and servants, we need a great king to sit on that throne. A greatking that can 1) fight a war for you, 2) command respect from others for you3) give you whatever you want 4) provide a good life for you 5) protect and cherish you.
I just know that each of our own families have dysfunctionalities, but no matter what when it comes down to it, family moments should be of laughter, ease of company, and that enriching feeling that we know we are happy, and we are thankful to share our life w/ this group u know. We're at the point of our lives( and god is it hard) that choices are crucial. We all make wrong choices, but what's beautiful about life is we can move on and make more choices that lead us into our "Right" path.It dawned on me, that the day I realized I was "ready" to be married, was the day I let go of the "fear of divorce", I figured “shit half of the time it feels like I dont really know what I"m doing, but I figured if he's not the one, I can move on. and that made me not look at marriage as doom but bliss. But that's what it needs to be - BLISS. at least most of it.I think we all can relate to that coming from filipino families that frowned on divorce, but I love living in this day and age, where us women now have choices, and we are still leading and trying to break through for some more.You should be able to feel that you're falling w/ your hubby more and more each day. And you constantly discover new things about him. He should make you laugh, not cry, lift you up not down. Your husband should be helping you - remember that. It's a partnership.
Marriage is that time to ask ourselves honestly what we want. When we jump off the edge, I do believe we need a good partner on our side. It's a lot easier I realized. That's how I know I love Jim, Marilyn asked me once how did I KNOW, and my response was " I dunno, but all I know is with him,everything is easy, and half of the time during that trip of getting to know him, I didn't realize that yah I can move somewhere far w/ this guy,yes i can marry him, and the next thing I know I'm building a life with him"Nature has an easeness about things, and things just have a funny way ofjust getting to where they finally need to be, but then again we're always moving. Life takes us for the ride.

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